Tuesday, August 14, 2012

How bad is it to have "fun" and "funeral" in the same sentence?

Jason's Uncle Simon passed away this past week. He had a stroke several months ago, followed by a heart attack. He was only 57 and the youngest of his dad's siblings, he was also in pain and ready for relief. The news of his passing was sad, but everyone also felt gratitude that he was in a better place. The funeral service was beautiful, atleast what I heard from the speakers placed outside the Rose Hill cemetary chapel while I dug hot wheels out of the garbage can, cleaned up little bits of styrofoam cup that entertained little hands for a solid 5 minutes and tried not to look like too big of an idiot running past the full length windows in my stillettos while chasing an irreverant toddler off headstones. This is the first funeral that my kids have been to and they were filled with questions which opened up some great dialogue about death and heaven and Maddox was relieved not to find a skeleton in the casket during the viewing. I only met Uncle Simon a handful of times, but I hear he had a great sense of humor and as we sat around the grave side with family and loved ones laughing and sharing stories about his killer British impersonations and his love affair with food that got him kicked out of all-you-can-eat buffets, I decided it wasn't so bad to admit that our trip to California for his funeral was actually pretty fun.  I think he would have preferred it that way. So tonight I made sweet and sour chicken just for you, Uncle Simon (and because I haven't gone shopping since we've been home and I had the ingredients on hand. But mostly for you, Uncle Simon, mostly for you).  You are loved and will be greatly missed, thank you for making the world a better place with your smile.

Jason's grandparents and great grandparents are also buried at this cemetary.  It is one of the most beautiful cemetarys that I have ever been to.

I love feeling like an honorary Asian when I'm with Jason's family.  I still don't venture too far away from the fried rice, but I have been known to say "shi shi" on occasion when necessary.

Sea World was the typical stuff amusement parks are made out of. Crowded, hot, overpriced everything, mediocre service and even more mediocre food. But after getting past the $18 deep fried chicken fingers, the smiles made it all worth it. The thrill of facing their fears on the roller coasters, the amazement of whales leaping out of the water, their wide eyes staring at sharks, the squeals when touching sting rays and the chorus of little voices asking when we get to go back next. Yeah, it was worth it. Just maybe not the chasing a baby all over creation and digging a used cigarette butt out of his mouth part. That I could have done without.

Maddox didn't know what he had gotten himself into when he wanted to go on Journey to Atlantis just like the big kids.  He said he kind of liked it, but mostly didn't.  And he'll never do it again.  Brave little boy, you can't even see his head, he's so tiny (we're in the last row).

And then came the beach. Oh I would take the beach over an amusement park any day {no offense, Shamu, we had a good run}. It was so nice having Ryder old enough to explore and not just sit on my lap eating sand. Jayden became the master sand crab finder (since Jayden is the master at whatever he does), Kylie overcame her fear of sharks and lived in the waves and Maddox devoted his time to sand castles, sand volcanos, sand bridges and what ever sand creations his little mind could come up with. We spent the next 6 hours sitting in the car with sand in our underwear, but it was a small price to pay for a beautiful day at the beach

Maybe I should have told them about the big wave sneaking up behind them?  Nah.


Janessa said...

I'm glad you were able to make some wonderful family memories even during a time of mourning. I'm glad you survived Sea World and enjoyed the beach. Love all the pictures. That last one is my favorite!

Chelsea said...

of course you made the very most of it! you guys don't waste a single minute and make every minute count! Love your pictures so much. And I can't believe M rode that! I'm pretty sure I would never ride it, I am such a ride wuss.

Kristal said...

Ok, seirously, you pictures are incredibly lovely! Seriously lovely! What do you shoot with? i love them. And same here...we LOVE watching your littlest guy at church. He's always dressed so handsome and he's so funny to watch. I want to squeeze his cheeks!!!!

Andi said...

I'm glad that we were all there at his funeral and your had a great time at Sea World and the beach.

Jessica 洁玲 said...

Really well written post on Uncle Simon. Nice job, Jamie!