Monday, February 14, 2011

A not so secret secret admirer

So Kylie got her first Valentine and I know I should probably be worried, but I think it's the cutest thing ever.  One of the early morning teachers came up to Kylie and gave her a gift bag with a card that said "to Kylie, from your secret admirer, Brycen" and inside was this little bear filled with chocolate hearts. Oh my cuteness.  She was so emberassed and tried to give it away to her friend (which I can not understand why, if I was her I would have been so giddy and on cloud nine. Of course I think I was boy crazy from the minute I emerged from the womb).  This little boy has had a crush on her ever since kindergarten and she has always blown him off.  She may flirt with the best of them, but she really isn't into boys and I'm glad.  She said it did make her feel good that he gave her the present, but that she only liked him as a friend.  It was sweet and innocent which is a far cry from the drama with another boy, Zach. He is every parents worst nightmare for their daughter.  He kept telling Kylie she was "sexy and hot", invited her to his house for a hot tub party, told her that she needed to wear a sexy bikini to the hot tub party and said he would buy her one of she didn't have one (her response: "I don't own a bikini and I never will!" Go Kylie, I must have done something right.), and chasing her around the playground every recess to show her his boxers. I wanted to smack the kid for bursting her little bubble of innocence, but instead of resorting to violence I talked to her teacher who talked to the principal who immediately took him into the office for a chat and called Kylie up to the office to tell her how proud she was that she stood up for herself and told someone what he was doing (a shout out to her amazing principal).  Then a few days later her friend overheard a conversation he had with his friends involving Kylie and the "F" word. Kylie immediately told her teacher who didn't do anything about it (no shout out to her not so amazing teacher), so instead Kylie marched her little legs straight to the prinicpal's office where she immediately called him in and he had to sit there the rest of the day and was also suspended from recess for the entire month (another shout out to the amazing principal). Hopefully that's the end of that. I was so proud of Kylie for the way she handled the situation and I was glad that we were able to have some good conversations about what kind of boys she would want to date and what boys to stay away from when she's older.  I honestly was so surprised to hear that kind of stuff coming from a little 8 year old boys mouth and it makes me wonder if I need to give her "THE" talk. I never thought we would be dealing with so much boy drama in the third grade and it scares me to think of what is yet to come. 

6 comments:

Diana said...

I'm gonna be honest--I think my parents had their first talk with me about that in the 3rd grade. If I remember correctly, it was because boys were having inappropriate conversations in art class but that was a long time ago and I don't completely trust my memory :) After that scary nonsense (wow! THAT is precisely what scares me to death about having a daughter!) I'd be inclined to do a little research on how to have an age appropriate little chat with her with lots and lots of praise about how she handled it this time around. Regardless of what you decide, it sure sounds like you are doing lots and lots of things right anyway. Got any tips? I'd like a daughter just like that.

Chelsea said...

WHOA! That is some serious drama. It makes me ill to think of the F word coming from any child's mouth, let alone an 8 year old. And sexy, hot, bikinis, and hot tubs?? this kid must have some naughty older brothers? Holy moly.

And about her valentine, it gave me a flashback to my first one. A boy that I was friends with in 4th grade came to school and gave me a necklace and I was completely mortified. Like sick to my stomach. I gave it back to him, and I'm sure I wasn't too sweet about it either, I mean he had just humiliated me and all ;) So what I'm saying is that I need to go find B.J. Weik on Facebook and write him a lengthy apology.

Janessa said...

I just love that girl! I am so impressed with the way she handled both the bad boy and the good boy. She's going to be quite the catch someday. She doesn't put up with the naughty and doesn't let the secret admirer stuff go to her head. I really hope that Zach backs off and sees that Kylie can't be messed with. I've thought about that whole situation several times since we were talking about it the other day and it just makes me sick. I really hope my girls would tell me if something like that was going on. In spite of what you say, it is so because of the teaching and love and guidance that she's getting at home that gives her the guts to deal with these situations the way she is. Go ahead and take a mommy point for that one:) You girls rock!

Tyson and Dawn Jolley said...

Kylie is such a doll and so awesome that she stood up for herself and her virtues!
That poor boy, I wonder what his parents are like. Maybe Kylie should give him a Book of Mormon :)

thoughts said...

I am so proud of Kylie. You and Jason need to give me some parenting tips on raising a girl :) Glad she stood her ground.

Jodee said...

oh my! 3rd grade is way too young to have to even think about having that conversation, that is craziness! that freaks me out to think out sweet little girls would have to hear stuff like that from their peers. good for Kylie for knowing how messed up that is and doing something about it!
And I agree with Janessa, big mom points for handling it so well and that Kylie was comfortable enough telling you about it all, what a relief!