Saturday, September 13, 2008

She's Baaaaack!

Okay, I'm a little creeped out. Some of you probably remember the reason I put my blog on private. About a year ago a girl from the Dominican Republic left a comment on my blog, the comment itself was fine she just said how cute my kids were. I was just uncomfortable with the idea of strangers around the world reading about our family, so I put my blog on private that day. The very next day she wrote me a nasty message on my myspace account about how she couldn't believe that I would put it on private because of the comment she had left and that she thought all Mormons were supposed to be nice. Two things kind of freaked me out about that, first of all she had to have been reading my blog for awhile considering that she knew I was Mormon and the fact that she had gone back and seen that it was on private. The second thing was that somehow she had managed to track down my myspace account. My screen name was just "Jamie" and there are like a million Jamie's, so my guess was that she had been going through my list of links on my blog and found a link to my friend's myspace and saw that I was one of her friends. It was also weird because I went to her blog and myspace account and she used two different names on both sites. We wrote back and forth a couple of times because I kind of wanted to get a feel for who she really was, she claimed to be a Mormon also (part of me wonders if she's just saying that to gain my trust because after looking at her blog and myspace I had serious doubts that she really was). Something else that weirded me out was that she had some Asian fettish type thing going on on her myspace. So that was about a year ago, but with my blog on private I didn't really think about her anymore. Until yesterday. I set up a facebook account like a month ago and wouldn't you know, I get an odd friend request from some girl in the Dominican Republic saying, "Hi jamie. im adding you as my friend,please i hope you accept me.thnks." Once again it's a different name and a different picture, but as soon as I saw it I just got a creepy feeling. I open up her profile and the only thing she has listed there is the fact that she's (supposedly) Mormon (and she only has a couple of friends, all from different countries, except one. He's from Phoenix). I would consider the idea that it was just a coincidence and that she was really some Mormon girl looking to network, but my profile is on private so there's no way that she would know that I'm even Mormon. So I was already having a bad feeling about her when Jason called me and said that he had gotten a friend request on his facebook from the same girl. Now I know for sure it has to be her because what are the chances? There's no way some random girl would know that he was my husband. I just don't get what her deal is, if she really is some young girl in the DR, why does she want to be "friends" with us anyways? Why after a year is she still so interested in our family? Why would she spend so much time trying to track me (and Jason) down? There's got to be a million Jamie Youngs and Jason Youngs out there that she has to sift through before finding us (unless she narrowed her search because she knows we live in Phoenix and that scares me), and who has time for that? Why is she so vague and uses different names on all of her stuff? What if it's really some sicko posing as a young girl? It seriously just leaves me with such an uneasy feeling, I had a hard time sleeping last night because I kept thinking about it. I've got everything on private, but is there something more I should do? Ugggg, I feel sick.

23 comments:

Alisa Larson said...

Eww, Yuck! I get a few people from other countries, and I don't like it either, but I'm too lazy to go private. Plus, how would all my ex-boyfriends blog stalk me? Just kidding about that, I'm just lazy. Hope you can sleep tonight.

Jodee said...

Creepy! I think maybe she has a strange fascination with your family... I don't think there is any harm that could come of her but I do think she is a little creepy and a lot annoying. DECLINE!

Suni said...

Okay that is creepy....what is up with some people!! Sounds like she has a LOT of time on her hands!

Ricky and Janessa Cazier said...

That is very creepy. No little creepy - very big creepy! Especially since Jason got one too. Am I calming your fears? Sorry, I'll try and be a little more mellow. What do you mean she "had some Asian fettish type thing going on"? Move to Iowa! That's what you should do.

Anyway, I just tried calling you and I'm guessing your busy since your voice mail picked up. I'm glad you atleast had a new post for me to read (even if it's creepy). I can't wait to talk to you and tell you about my weekend. Dylan so has my vote. We all love this guy! The kids were all calling him uncle Dylan, we took a ton (like almost 200) mock engagement pictures of Jennifer and Dylan and he was calling mom and dad "mom and dad". She doesn't have a ring yet but it's definitely coming. We were making wedding plans all weekend. I kept thinking, "I wish Jamie was here!!!" Keep December 30th open!

Meredith's Mommy said...

That's creepy. Did you confirm her on Facebook? I wouldn't. Who cares if she's mad at you... just block her on all sides. For all you know, it's NOT a girl, but some blog-stalking sicko. You're probably safe as long as you don't give out any addresses or phone numbers. What makes me crazy are these people on Facebook who list ALL of their personal info. Why would you do that? Why not list your social security number, too? Anyway, that's off topic. Sorry this happened to you!

Pays said...

CREEPY!!! I would be scared to death. I don't blame you for putting you blog on private, I would totally do that! This girl needs to get a life. Hopefully she backs off. Good luck!

The Morris Fam said...

Everyone else shares my same feelings... CREEPY. I really don't want to think too much about who it really could be. I would go with you gut feeling.

Julie and Matt said...

Ok- that's really creepy. Did you deny her request as a friend on Facebook. I can totally see why your blog is private!

Julie and Matt said...

Ok- that's really creepy. Did you deny her request as a friend on Facebook. I can totally see why your blog is private!

Bret and Marisa said...

I agree with you and everyone else--that is WAY, WAY, WAY creepy!!! I would also not have slept that whole night after worrying about it.

Back in the day when you and I were one of the few people blogging and neither of us had a very long list of links, I remember clicking around and blog hopping from your links and getting a friend of yours myspace page. I think the link took me straight there--so I'm guessing that's how she got it. So hopefully that will allay fears of her hunting forever to find you. She probably got to your myspace link in a pretty straightforward way (hopefully) back in the day. She must've found you fascinating and bookmarked both pages. Hopefully she really is a newer Mormon and isolated from lots of Mormons and is only just fascinated by knowing another person (who is so cool, too) of her faith. The odd part is why she is still looking for you. So I can totally understand your fears!?! I bet you are SO glad that you went private on your blog. The whole thing is just really, really strang (I'm sure I'm not helping here). As cheesy as it sounds...this has probably really, really been concerning you (as it totally would me)--so pray about what you should do. Seriously.

Good luck! Keep us posted on what happens.

Andrea said...

That is really freaky! I say be very direct with her. It might scare her off. I would ask her why she uses different names on everything and why she wants to be your friend. Then after you get her response, I would let her know that you don't want to be her friend and if she tries to contact you or any of your family or friends you will contact the police. You do not have to be nice to someone who is making you feel uncomfortable or threatened. Go with those promptings and stand your ground. She may get mad - but that tells you that you are right on about this girl. Someone who has innocent intentions will not get mad and debate the point. Let me know how it goes.

Chelsea said...

she is a FREAK Jamie, yowza!! sorry. Obviously a shady person, but I wouldn't worry too much since there are a gazillion Jamie and Jason Youngs out there. "She" wouldn't be able to track you down that easy...

Shanen said...

You wonder how people even have time to "stalk" people they don't even know. What a weirdo. I would be a little creeped out too, but I agree I'm not sure she really ever could find you if she wanted to.

Kristina said...

OK Jamie-very creepy! I would be totally freaked out! There is something not right with this person! Don't accept her invites and this is definitly NOT the time to be nice! Let her know you want her to leave you alone!! So sorry you have to worry about this.

Andrea said...

I remember the first time this girl contacted you and you felt uneasy about it. We talked about people we just get the creeps about and don't know why. There was an Oprah about following those "gut instincts" a while back. the people always talked about that little prompting/instict they felt and didn't follow and then bad things happened.
I don't think you should freak out - but you should definately be aware that it is easy to find people on the interenet. And depending on what kind of job you have - it's even easier to find people. She has a good idea about what age you are and the state you live in. All you have to do is a people search - and then start narrowing it down. She could live in Arizona herself - or visit because of work. And depending on what she does for a living, she could have a wide variety of access to a number of data bases that could link her right to you. It bothers me that so many people are telling you not to be worried about this. I say, go with your gut! And your gut is telling you to keep this chick away. When it comes to your family, you can NEVER be too safe. You don't have to freak out - but you can safe guard yourself and your family. You get promptings like this for a reason and you should most definately follow them. Even when you don't know why - and you may never find out the outcome. Ladies - please be aware of the dangers that are out there on the web. It is real - and it is serious and don't take things lightly. Especially if you are feeling you should act - then act. Educate yourself about safety on the internet.
Sorry to be the realist. I would really love to tell you not to worry - but I could never live with myself if something bad happened because you didn't follow your instincts. It's always better to be safe than sorry.

Andrea said...

Check out peoplesearch.com

Vonda said...

I love this "forever young" page - your blog is the cutest! Too bad there are creepy peeps out there (oh ya, Im propably considered one of them:)

Chelsea said...

I agree with you Andrea, it is always better to go with your gut--which is why she put everything on private in the first place and blocked this weirdo...so what else can she do?

is there a way to block yourself from people search??

Andrea said...

I don't know of any way to get your name off people search. It has to do with public records. I know this website because of a job my cousin use to have. But there are other sites that have the same info.

I know you have everything private - and this creepy chick is still finding you - I'd definately threaten to call the police if she doesn't leave you alone. That is way stalker-ish! And very creepy! Very not normal! Especially setting up different names for "herself". She is definately up to something! And it ain't good!

nicole said...

Ok, I got goosebumps reading this post...especially when she contacted you a year later. What is wrong with people???

DAVE AND CANDACE BOLLARD said...

That is really creepy. Are you sure it's not someone that Dave set Jason up with when he was over there? Just kidding! Ok, I guess it's not nice to joke about it, but I thought it would ease the mood. Seriously though, I would contact your police department if she keeps trying to get a hold of you. See if they have a special internet tracking department or something. In fact, Wendy just sent me an email today that I will forward on to you. Good luck!!

Tasha & Michael +2 said...

I am sorry that's really weird!!! I think that's just a internet risk thing! I guess i should put mine on private...

WishTrish said...

Hmmm. I think it is all about your gut. Personally, I have had quite a lot of foreign hits and comments and never had a real concern, although I have removed several comments from people I just don't know or that were inappropriate (every time about the church). I have two friends who have blogs that get hits in the THOUSANDS daily, and they just started as their personal family blogs. They are very talented, creative writers and their blogs just turned into these megamonsters. Both have commented in emails that they had felt stalked at one time or another. I think your policy should be safety. Who needs a facebook account, anyway, right? :P